In this article you will learn:
- Which are the biggest stumbling blocks you’ll want to avoid when you’re dating a guy
- Which body language and clothing tips ensure that you stay miles ahead of the competition.
- What keeps a guy from thinking about you – don’t do this and all your dating is wasted.
- Which is my number 1 tip if a man generally gets tired of you quickly.
…and much more.
The moment you start dating, a lot can go wrong …
Donald DuckThere are a few things that, if she does you, will kill your chances of a good relationship.
Purely because they attract the wrong men – men you don’t want – or because they make them turn off the right men.
After all, it is about finding someone who suits you. That you like.
I don’t have to like him. It’s about making you happy. So my job as a dating coach is to advise you as best I can to find the man that makes you crazy. However?
To start well, I’ve put together my favorite 27 dating tips below
tips-to-keep-relationship-funThese are all my tips for beginners. If you want to learn what to do when you start dating and get it right, this is a great start.
These are the tips that yield the most results in my coaching practice. Whether they help prevent major problems, or ensure that the right men come to you like flies on syrup.
In addition, there are some tips on how you can best deal with men in general.
Tip 1: Stop analyzing
Do not do itI see the same thing with every woman I coach.
As confident as she is, at some point she becomes obsessive about a man. Sometimes this is for the first date. Sometimes they have already spent months on it. Sometimes they have been married for years and then it starts.
Whatever the case: if a man asks you out. And you wonder if you should say yes. You don’t know if it’s going to be fun. Or there will be silences. Whether you actually like him that much.
Then there is only 1 solution: and that’s it.
You may ask yourself how to proceed. But you have never experienced the situation before. At least not with this man. It is impossible to predict how this will turn out. I wouldn’t try it.
It’s like a roller coaster. You don’t know how it will go, but you know that you are tied down tightly and cannot fall out of the cart, and that you can get out safely at the end of the ride. And that’s the important thing. Whether you will like it or whether you have to vomit is still to be seen, but at least you will get off unscathed. And that’s what you want to aim for on a date. Get off unscathed and see how much fun it was for the rest.
But that’s not the only time when women can become insecure and get bogged down in eternal over-analysis …
analyzeAnother classic is when you’ve been dating a guy for a while and you start to like him more and more. But men are not always easy to read. He has 1 facial expression – and another that he only uses for very special occasions. In any case, it is difficult to see from some men what they are doing.
Allowing women to go completely overboard thinking about him and the dates they have together.
“ Oh, he hasn’t chatted me in a day. Does he still like me? Or was the dress I wore yesterday a little too red? Maybe I should add his sister as a friend on Facebook. Or is that going too far? Hey, who is that girl who is just a little too close to him in that photo with twenty other people? Let me visit her on Facebook and find out what she’s doing. The next time I see him, I’ll steal his phone. No, just texting anyway. Baby, do you want to see me? Gosh, I don’t know what to hear about this…. ”
Just a random inner dialogue of 30 seconds from 1 of my coaching clients
inner dialogueDon’t be embarrassed, it can happen to the best. It is one of the biggest problems that the women I coach have. And that doesn’t matter at all. But pay attention. The moment you find yourself starting to overanalyze: stop yourself.
In the first case, where you have doubts about a date, you have two options:
Option A : Go.
Option B : Don’t go.
Choose for yourself which one you want to do. Later in the article I’ll explain to you why I think option A is best in most cases. But make a choice. You cannot predict the future and the best thing is to just see it.
In the second case, you also have a few options. Either he likes you or he doesn’t like you. Time will tell. But the more you sit on him, the more you push him, the hotter he gets. So try not to go on the way to the extent that you are after him. Later in the article I will give more tips for this.
All in all: relax. It will all be fine, and with that over-analyzing you are not going to change the outcome. Still, I know that many women find this extremely difficult. But keep breathing, keep calm. Then we now move to the next tip.
Tip 2: Don’t just stick to fries with mayonnaise
fries with mayonnaiseSuppose you are seven years old. And someone asks you what your favorite food is. Chances are you say fries or pancakes. That is the favorite food of most children.
But if you’re seven, and your favorite food is chips. You can’t get enough of it and you prefer to sit on your lazy butt all day, scooping handfuls of fries. You like fries so much that you don’t even have to think about eating something else. But a lot of children also like pancakes. At least half of the seven-year-olds are completely crazy about this. If you’ve never tried pancakes before, can you honestly say that fries are your favorite food?
Maybe you have the pancake gene, and you are actually someone who loves pancakes on their own. But since you’ve never tried it, you think fries are your favorite food.
And that’s how it works with men too
it functions” Try out a different kind of man before making a decision .”
I think every woman should date at least 20 different men before starting a long relationship with one of them. That is for the very practical reason that you get to know what you are actually looking for in this way. What exactly is your favorite food. It prevents you from depriving yourself. Because suppose you walk past a pancake stand at the age of thirty and you’ve only been eating fries since you were seven. Then you can beat yourself up, right? And how fair is it to the boss of the chip shop, with whom you have been in a relationship for twenty years, if you switch to pancakes from one day to the next just because it suits you better? Couldn’t you have thought of that a little earlier?
You avoid a lot of frustration. Dating different men will help you find out what you like, and prevent yourself from presenting yourself with a copy that doesn’t meet the requirements. And you avoid getting into a relationship with someone who doesn’t fit that well from throwing in the towel halfway because you like their best friend better anyway. So that’s a bonus.
You often see that women enter into a long relationship once
wedding party For example with someone they met in high school. That goes off after about ten years and they think: hey, I just want a type like him. That’s my type of man. Only to find out that it is difficult to find someone who looks exactly like him, but without those annoying traits that go with it. Instead of shopping around and trying other types, they often get stuck. And they sometimes keep that up for years, with all the frustration and loneliness that entails.
“ Be adventurous. ”
Maybe you are a serious business woman and you are being questioned a terrible rocker in a pub. And do you think, “ Naaaah. We are not compatible. My advice would be: just go on a date with him. If you find him even slightly attractive, you get the chance to take a look at the life of someone who sees life in a completely different way. Maybe it fits great. Is he the yin to your yang, or whatever that Chinese junk may be called.
Anyway. I wish you the best of luck in finding your favorite flavor man.