Let men make an effort for you

flowers-for-dateSuppose you call a friend today and say, “ Listen, honey. I have something so nice. I get to give away a million today, and you don’t have to do anything. ”

Would she take you seriously?

Let me tell you otherwise. A friend of mine worked in Sales. At a new company where he had recently started, he earned three times as much as in his old job. Optimistic as he was, he advised all his colleagues to switch immediately. They looked at him as if they saw water burning. They didn’t believe it. It sounded too good to be true. It was too easy, so there must be something wrong with it.

” This is how stupid men are “

stupid-things-list-menIf you’re dating a guy and you like him, please don’t let him think there’s something wrong with you.

The moment you make it too easy for him, he may start to think that your market value in the dating market is low. Not because of how you are put together, but purely because of the fact that he can easily get you. He comes to the conclusion that his value is higher than yours. His respect for you is diminishing.

While if you let him work for it …

… not responding directly to his messages …

… and lean back on dates …

… And generally making sure he does his best for you.

Then he must come to the conclusion that the reward – you – has a lot of value

Added valueMost women are very good at this. They can make a man make an effort for him at first. But after a few dates that diminishes. And after six months they completely lost it. Why? Because they started to like him. Making it very difficult for them to let that man make an effort for them. “What if he doesn’t feel like it and leaves me?”

But the reality is exactly the opposite. Men don’t feel like having something thrown in their lap and having to do everything with it. That’s not how it works in our world. We don’t want to feel like love beggars. We want to feel powerful. Knowing that we have conquered something that has a lot of value, and that is now “ours”. And playing “hard to get” every now and then – mind you, in the right way – you’re deluding us.

So stop making a guy feel like he could teleport you to his bedroom any minute. Even if you’ve been in a relationship for years, you want to make him think he should do his best for you. Your husband will thank you.